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All across the United States and beyond, small business creation is a bright spot, even in still-struggling economies, which are many.

Under reported and operating below the radar is the absolute fact that women owners of small businesses are a powerful and growing force, especially considering that fully 87% of all consumers are, you guessed it, women.

A woman owned business targeting such a willing, captive audience is an almost obscene advantage because we are much more curious and better able to focus on what women want, in my opinion than our male counterparts.

We recognize fast moving trends, capturing market opportunities more nimbly with a greater efficiency and higher probability for lasting success.

Just saying.

The following infographic shows 10 vital stats from late 2015/2016 that reveal what an economic driver small business truly is.

If the lure of working on your own terms and making a living doing what you enjoy has captured your attention, remember there are many ways to approach becoming an entrepreneur. It is not limited only to people with the financial means of making a large cash investment.

One of the graphics below shows $30,000 as the average start up cost to open a business in the US, but it is just that, an average, and not the hard and fast bottom line. There are businesses like mine that you can enter for under $10,000, and quite possibly even less than $5,000 if approached as a home-based side business, or other alternatives to a retail lease obligation for example. A small business launched in this way can always be expanded into a full-time retail business

when you have a more established clientele and a little more cash to work with.

There are some other small business ideas with real potential especially for women looking for side income or part-time income that can be launched from home at relatively low cost, so even if your dream seems out of reach at the moment, it is well worth your while to keep pursuing and investing your time and resources because you can make it happen. It is well worth it because, after all, it is an investment in yourself for a change.

But, you have to get after it. It couldn’t be any more plain to see that now is the time to act on your ideas.

If you are you working in the corporate world but feel miscast in a role that just doesn’t suit you? Take heart, because you have lots of company.

It used to be a given that unless you had a wild streak and were willing to follow it, a corporate logo was in your future if you wanted a “good job” and the promise of creature comforts that came along with it. Not anymore.

A lot of you are just not cut out for that, personality wise, and you’re stuck wearing a suit that doesn’t fit. It’s very uncomfortable.

Now, you may think something is wrong with you for not conforming, but trust me, there isn’t. It’s actually healthy if you find yourself at times secretly plotting an escape.

In fact, your “flaws” may be cause for celebration, because chances are you are much better suited to be an owner than an employee!

What others might consider personality traits holding you back at work, like problems with authority, a one track mind, or being quiet or introverted, are definitely qualities found in people who succeed in business. Even a little arrogance is an attractive ingredient.

When you think about it, that makes sense.  These characteristics are not only important, but necessary in order to hatch an idea, then plan, promote, and execute on your business plan.

That type of confidence, quiet or otherwise, attracts people to believe in your ideas and support you. They might even choose to invest with you.

So check out the undeniable evidence in the numbers below, and then take a good look at yourself.

My guess is that you’re going to find that wild child, inner entrepreneur ready to make it’s entrance onto the stage of small business opportunity.

(Infographic from Entrepreneur Magazine.)

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The Princess Tea Party business is fun, flexible, and lucrative. Now, with nearly 20 years of experience, I am helping other women achieve the same joy and satisfaction I have experienced in my two definitive Guides, Become a Princess Tea Party Business Owner, and Become a Children’s Etiquette Teacher. These are the exact road maps I followed to start and operate successful businesses made easy. No prior business experience is necessary, and no franchise fees. Learn More Here

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Lisa Zakar is a wife and mother of 3. She is the owner of Lisa Rose, a popular Princess Tea Party venue. She has an 18-year track record in the Princess Tea Party business. Lisa had a 10-year history in higher end retail with Nordstrom before launching her business. Lisa Rose is an award winning party venue with Best of Honolulu/children’s parties/Honolulu Magazine, and, Winner of Best Children’s Parties/Island Parent Magazine. Lisa Rose has locations in Honolulu.

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What are the Ingredients for Success in Business?

What does it take to become a woman entrepreneur?

You might adopt an attitude or acquire a skill to elevate your game and enhance your chances of success.

However, a belief in yourself that you have everything it takes right now is the essential ingredient a recipe for success cannot do without.

 

Take a Simple Idea and Create a Small Business

Most women entrepreneurs aren’t running Hewlett-Packard. They were likely looking for a way out of the 9-5 headlock by taking a simple idea and creating a small business from it.

Maybe you are a creative woman who has been sitting on an idea or the dream of entrepreneurship rather than taking action to go build that.

 

Perhaps all you lack is INSPIRATION.

Are you a business minded woman who knows that women forming and building new businesses will change the world? After all, more than 85% of all consumers are women.

You may be so super busy with your day to day that you lack the time and clarity to put your heart into what truly MOTIVATES you.

 

A Plan of Action

Inspiration, motivation, and support from others are the essentials of what most women need to engage in a plan of action and launch an entrepreneurial endeavor.

This isn’t to minimize the value of knowing your product and how to uniquely position it.

You may not see an opportunity to test those skills without first summoning the courage to go forward when things look dark and out of reach.

 

3 Things.

Speaking of which, there is an article by Women in Business Expert, Lahle Wolfe who says there are 3 other things that are important to achieving success in business, one of which is a thick skin. Read More Here.

I agree with that one.

In my case, I was a working mother motivated by a desire to be there for my kids as they were growing up. Some moms might dismiss that as a luxury beyond reach in the 21st century.

 

It is no such thing.

 

When an opportunity is right in front of you, leap at it.

As I saw it, a need for flexibility and a leveling between work and family was a requirement rather than a luxury.

Only Good Times.

 

For myriad reasons, be them family, financial, emotional well- being, or professional satisfaction, nearly 20 years down the road now, I look back with no regrets.

Quite the opposite, as I feel blessed to have had the inspiration, motivation, and support I needed at the time to launch a business and create a success story of my own.

 

Whether I knew it at the time or not, I had what was necessary to become a woman entrepreneur.

 

You may be even better equipped to succeed than I was.

If all you needed was this little nudge, the pleasure is mine.

 

 

Become a Princess Tea Party Business Owner! Become a Children’s Etiquette Teacher

 

The Princess Tea Party business is fun, flexible, and lucrative. Now, with nearly 20 years of experience, I am helping other women achieve the same joy and satisfaction I have experienced in my two definitive Guides, Become a Princess Tea Party Business Owner, and Become a Children’s Etiquette Teacher. These are the exact road maps I followed to start and operate successful businesses made easy. No prior business experience is necessary, and no franchise fees. Learn More Here

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Lisa Zakar is a wife and mother of 3. She is the owner of Lisa Rose, a popular Princess Tea Party venue. She has an 18-year track record in the Princess Tea Party business. Lisa had a 10-year history in higher end retail with Nordstrom before launching her business. Lisa Rose is an award winning party venue with Best of Honolulu/children’s parties/Honolulu Magazine, and, Winner of Best Children’s Parties/Island Parent Magazine. Lisa Rose has locations in Honolulu.

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Dreaming is Your Blueprint for Success

Just as all ideas are first sparked in the imagination, a dream come true begins with a dreamer.

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” -Harriet Tubman

I believe that the only things keeping people from realizing their dreams are the choices they make.

You can choose to believe in your inner qualities and find a way to manifest what you truly want, or you can continue to believe the deck is stacked and you have no choice in the matter.

The pursuit of your dreams and reaching for the stars to change your world for the better is right and good, and well within anyone’s capability if you try.

Walk away from anyone who tries tell you otherwise.

You deserve better.

It does not mean you have to singlehandedly change the world. It’s not about being a superhero, except where you and your family might be concerned.

A Mother at a Crossroads

I was a mother at a crossroads, with 3 young kids and a responsibility to contribute financially. Honestly, I was caught between wanting the flexibility to run around after the kids, and the need to help support my family.

I used to see my husband reclining in a favorite chair on Sunday afternoons, with eyes closed but not sleeping. He was a busy guy, so I thought he was just trying to catch a quiet moment to himself.

Turns out he was, but not for reasons I would have thought.

Dream for Your Family

He said he used that time for dreaming about success for his family, and his business. He was visualizing how he wanted it to unfold, seeing a picture of life as he wanted it to be.

You can steer your life where you want it to go, and influence how you want it to be, by seeing it first.

A Way to Fulfill Desire

Your dreaming might also involve finding a way to fulfill your desire to be there for the kids, and the yearning for a professional life at the same time.

Almost 20 years ago now, I solved the problem by going into a weekend Princess Tea Party business.

It worked out beautifully in that I’ve had maximum flexibility while turning a part-time income into a lucrative business that has helped immensely.

Hang a Dream in Front of You

Dreams continue to propel me forward. I have never looked back.

Are you are a woman with dreams anything like mine?

 

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There is no doubt in your mind you want to start something for yourself. It’s no secret either that you’d love to tell your boss “I’m Quitting” because in 2 weeks I’m opening this fabulous new business.

You just need to focus your energy and time to discover exactly what that “something” is.

If you enjoy young children and are looking for a business in a growth industry, you definitely want to check out these trends.

Expert Opinion

According to an Entrepreneur.com article, Children’s Party Planning is one of the top 5 businesses to enter with an investment under $10,000. This is a business you can commit to as either part-time or full-time. There are several ways to approach it, either by bringing it to your customers’ location or, opening a modest storefront and having them come to you.

It Can be Done for Even Less

In fact, depending on the approach you choose, the business can be launched for under $5,000.

Lucrative

The International Association of Amusement Parks and Attractions reports that the average revenue for hosting a children’s birthday party is $370. Since this is a low cost of entry, low overhead business, it can be very lucrative whether for a mom on a part-time basis or even more so as a full -time enterprise.

Proof Positive

How do I know this true? It’simple since I have been in the Children’s Tea Party business for nearly 20 years and my average revenue per party is higher than $370.

In the past 15 years, children’s birthday parties have experienced a transformation from backyard get-togethers with clowns and games into a diverse $10 billion industry in the United States alone according to celebration industry analysts. This growth has been sustained during a period of major swings in the economy.

A Growth Industry that’s Fun

The best evidence is reflected by the emergence of a new niche in the event planning industry: party planning “consultants” for children’s birthday parties.  Many of these companies see great opportunity in the expanding kid sector as parents  increasingly find relief in outsourcing the stress of planning the event and taking care of all the logistics and also hosting the parties, which as you know, often includes corralling a few little ones running around on a sugar high.

Parents Need to Outsource

Hiring a party planner for a 5-year-old’s birthday party might seem a little over the top to some, but as a party business owner myself, what caught my attention was a recent article detailing trends in the industry. What popped out right away was the reference to a report on child-focused businesses indicating that children today influence approximately $500 billion annually of their parents’ spending. That’s billion with a B.

Parents are coping with an awful lot these days between managing work and a family and feel that it is well worth their hard earned money for the peace of mind that comes with hassle-free parties. If done right, everyone is happy.

It is a stunning shift from prior generations and quite revealing, perhaps, about the way society operates today and choices parents must make in prioritizing their time between work and family life.

Something in it for Parents Too

Two underlying reasons for this trend are that birthdays are always considered special, and spending on children can give parents a sense of accomplishment in providing unique experiences for their child. So, in that sense, it is as much about the parents as it is about the kids. What a powerful dynamic in a business model based on feelings and emotion.

Some quotes from industry related observers leave little doubt about the strength of the industry based on the underlying psychology supporting it:

“People do find money to spend on their children because they want to make [birthdays] special for their child.”

Florida Times

“The bottom line is that modern parents end up spending lavishly on their children.”

The Franchise Handbook

“It’s great to see that even with a weak economy, parents are still focused on celebrating life’s biggest moments.”

GigMasters

When you take a minute to look at the dynamics that are driving trends in the industry, mainly a parent’s desire to see their children happy, the necessity to outsource the event, and willingness on the part of parents and grandparents to increasingly spend on a once a year celebration, it is easy to see why the business is thriving with plenty of opportunity for entrepreneurs.

It’s Only Going to Get Better

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, there were approximately 50 million children age 10 or younger in 2012. Over the next ten years, this number is expected to grow by about 6 million. This demand indicator alone points in a very favorable direction for continued growth and opportunity in the industry.

The Princess Tea Party business is about making a little child’s dream come true and has demonstrated strength and the ability to prosper in economic down times as well as the good times. While it is a slice of a much larger growing industry, it is made up of small businesses run by enterprising people, primarily women like you and me.

It’s reasonable cost of entry, flexibility and resilience are extremely attractive features, making it well worth looking into.

Check it Out

If you are interested in learning more about the Princess Tea Party business  it is my goal to help as many moms and women like you as possible to enter the best business for moms and women ever!.

princess tea party businessThe Princess Tea Party business is fun, flexible, and lucrative. Now, with nearly 20 years of experience, I am helping other women achieve the same extra income and free time I have enjoyed by offering my “Business in a Box.” It is the exact road map I followed to start and operate a successful business made easy for those interested in the business for themselves. No prior business experience is necessary, and no franchise fees. Purchase a copy today! Learn More Here

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Think about the worst job you’ve ever had.

I’m talking about brain dead, boring, tedious, work. You’ve had at least one of those, yes?

Sometimes we accept a job like that, knowing that it doesn’t suit us perfectly. But we’re not in a position to be particularly choosy. We have to pay the bills, right?

But other times, the job looked great on the surface. Only after accepting the offer did you discover that it didn’t suit you at all.

Why is that?

The Complications of Choosing a Career

Maybe your well-intending parents pushed you to become a lawyer because they wanted a secure, profitable career for you. But hours studying case precedents bore you to tears.

Perhaps your siblings went into medicine, and your competitive nature led you there, too. But while you enjoy working with patients, dealing with the other members in your practice, plus the insurance issues are killing you.

Or maybe a high-tech environment was considered the cool, hip place to be, so you studied software development. And now you spend your days holed up in front of a screen when you’d really rather be around people.

In each of these cases, the careers were selected for external reasons. Elements of the outside world heavily influenced your career choice.

Sure, a nice salary is great. But once you have the basics covered, shouldn’t you factor in what makes you happy and fulfilled when deciding how you spend the bulk of your day?

No, your past choices weren’t terrible. But they didn’t exactly lead to career happiness, either.

So now you’re ready to consider a different approach.

What Do You Need?

There are things you need to be happy in your career.

Like a work pace that matches your natural tendencies, social interaction levels that suit you, and co-workers who energize you.

Did you think to factor those in when you selected your current job?

Unfortunately, most of us don’t.

But we’re immediately aware of the mismatch once it’s too late.

A New Approach: “How I Like To Do Things”

So let’s try a simple approach.

Rather than focusing on the complicated job traits such as pay, what your family wants, where you’ll work, what you’ll do, who you’ll work for…let’s just consider how you like to do things.

Let’s say you are in charge of a new initiative. Do you need some time for study and analysis before you begin taking action, or do you jump right in and perform tasks to get things moving quickly?

Do you need to know the background or history of how this project came to be or is the fact that your boss said “do it” enough for you to approach it enthusiastically?

When you hit a roadblock during a project, do you choose to work your way around it, delicately work your way through it, or proceed like a steamroller because “I’m on a deadline, people!”

Can you see how this “how you like to do things” concept applies?

Your natural preferences regarding things like pace, details, and how you influence others impact your happiness and fulfillment each day.

Discovering Yourself

Understanding what your natural tendencies are will help you identify a potential mismatch.

You likely already have an idea about your natural inclinations, now that I’ve planted the seed. But let’s go over some questions to help draw out more ideas.

Pace: Eager or Deliberate?
When someone asks a question, are you answering before they even finish? Or do you need to mull things over a bit? Maybe even use a “let me think it over and get back to you” so that you can analyze a bit before responding?

Influencing Others: Inspiring or Logical?
Is it your natural tendency to effectively connect with people, or does it take a deliberate effort? Do you just “wing it” and successfully persuade, or do you lay out the facts to convince someone of your case?

Risk Taking: Uninhibited or Cautious?
Do you love flying by the seat of your pants, or do you prefer to map out a plan and evaluate potential consequences before taking action?

These are opposite extremes, and your preferences fall somewhere along each continuum.

Draining vs. Energizing

When your “natural” tendencies are in alignment with your job, your team, and your work environment, it’s heavenly. You feel energized. You’re inclined to take on more challenges, dream bigger, and grow.

You feel happy.

But – alas – there can be hiccups.

Even in a job that’s well suited to your natural tendencies, there will be times when you must adapt outside of your natural preferences. No biggie, it happens.

But it’s important to realize that adapting to someone else’s pace, communication style, or risk tolerance takes additional energy.

Which is why you’ll find that certain people, tasks, or projects absolutely drain you.

If the hiccup is a temporary or occasional occurrence, no worries. You’ll deal with it.

But if it occurs all the time, impacting your overall happiness? You might have to make a change. That may mean resolving the mismatch in your current role, or it could mean moving on to another position that better suits your natural tendencies.

After all, this is your happiness we’re talking about.

Are you in a job that suits your natural preferences and energizes you? Or do you find yourself adapting constantly and feeling drained? How does it affect your happiness?

Michelle Agner

 

 

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5-easy-waysIt’s frustrating, no?                                                                                                                                                                                   Camilla Hallstrom

You can’t seem to figure out how to become productive.

At the same time, the reason is simple:

You overthink things.

You feel stressed and anxious every time you have to make even the smallest decision. Big life decisions feel unfathomable. You’re left spinning your wheels while you know that decisiveness would help you unlock your potential.

In our digital age, we’re faced with information overload every day. No wonder you suffer from analysis paralysis. Unfortunately, this bad habit keeps you from moving forward and achieving your goals in life.

Do you think you’re just a chronic overthinker with zero chance of ever overcoming your productivity problem?

Think again.

If you’re ready to master decisiveness, let’s explore how you can stop overthinking once and for all.

1. Approach decisions in a different way

Why do you overthink things?

Chances are that you’re afraid of making the wrong decision. You’re afraid that you’ll be seen as a failure or that you’ll have to start from scratch after you’ve invested a lot of time and effort into something. This keeps you from making any decision at all.

But what if you could change your thought process? What if you would look at your decision-making as part of a journey, instead of focusing on the end goal?

What this means is that you approach your decisions with curiosity and creativity rather than focusing on what you should achieve. See the possibility to choose as an opportunity to find out new things about yourself and to use your smarts to find creative solutions along the way.

2. Put things into perspective

When you suffer from analysis paralysis, every little decision feels life-altering.

While there are decisions that you need to think about more thoroughly, most of the decisions that you make throughout the day are small and insignificant.

To determine whether a decision is important or insignificant, label it according to the following questions:

  • Will the outcome affect anything in your life in a big way (e.g. your income, your life partner, and so forth)?
  • How will the outcome of the decision impact your life a year from now?
  • What’s the worst thing that could happen?

If the outcome does have a big impact on your life even a year from now and if there are worst case scenarios you want to avoid, sit down and think about the decision. Call a friend and make a plan.

But if the outcome is insignificant, you shouldn’t spend much time thinking about it. After all, that just steals away energy from more important decisions.

To stop overthinking, make it as frictionless and easy as possible to make small and meaningless decisions. For example, choose what you’ll wear the day before and decide what you’ll eat for dinner every day of the week in advance.

3. Acknowledge that the future will always be a bit uncertain

There’s this thing about the future:

Even though we want to, we can’t predict it.

Whatever you do, there will always be a bit of uncertainty. You can’t know exactly where you’ll end up. Most things depend on various factors outside of your control. Even if you go out of your way to ensure that you’ll have full control of your future, you won’t.

And that’s fine! After all, that’s what makes life so exciting.

But at the same time, it’s natural to feel anxious. And in your quest to control your future, you overthink things. Fortunately, there are things you can do to ensure that you at least move in the right direction.

First, figure out what it is you truly want. If you could choose your perfect life, what would it look like?

Second, define where it is you want to end up. If you could choose, where would you be in 5 years from now? 10? What do you want to look back at and be proud of when you’re older?

4. Be kind to yourself

You probably have a perfectionist living inside of you. And that perfectionist is keeping you from making decisions.

You abstain from moving forward because ultimately, your inner perfectionist is criticizing everything you do.

To overcome your perfectionistic self, set a clear time limit to your decision. Instead of prolonging the decision (and ultimately, failing to make up your mind), promise yourself to make a decision when the time is up.

And keep in mind that “done is better than perfect.”

5. Trust yourself

You overthink things because you’re insecure.

That doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re not confident as a person.

No, it just means that you’re insecure about a particular decision.

For example, you’re not sure if you’re cut out to do a certain task and that’s why you can’t decide whether you should do it or not. Or you might doubt your ability to make a decision if you lack relevant experience.

You need to start trusting yourself. Trust yourself that you can achieve what you set out to do and that you’re capable of making the right decision.

Ultimately, it will become easier and easier to make decisions.

Stop Overthinking

Overthinking is ruining your productivity.

You know it to be true, but overcoming analysis paralysis is easier said than done.

Imagine having the ability to make decisions without the anxiety or stress.

It would feel amazing, right?

Yup, it sure would. That’s why it’s essential that you start implementing the tips you’ve learned here to stop overthinking and master your decisiveness.

In the end, it’s the key to unlocking your productivity.

 

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Hi, it’s Lisa. Here are some easy steps toward being a little more disciplined.
BY LEO BABAUTA

While I’m not a fan of trying to be disciplined every moment of the day, there’s no doubt most of us could use a little more discipline in our lives.

We procrastinate, we waste time with online distractions, we go an entire day without getting done what we really wanted to get done.

How do we overcome this?

With training.

Practice small, effective habits, and practice some more. Don’t expect yourself to be perfect at skills if you don’t repeatedly, deliberately practice.

If you want to get good at these skills, don’t worry about not being motivated. Just enjoy the joy of practicing something that you can get good at.

It’s amazing when you’re learning something new, and that wonderful feeling is what can motivate you.

What should you practice? Three simple skills that can be turned into habits with repeated practice.

The 3 Small Discipline Habits

The habits that work for me are all about talking to myself:

  1. Tell yourself, “This is what I’m going to do next.”. Instead of having a long to-do list of things you want to do today, have just one thing you want to do right now. Instead of saying you’re going to do this important task sometime, say you’re going to do it right now. Instead of allowing yourself to randomly open websites that give you distraction, deliberately figure out what you want to work on next. Pick one thing. It doesn’t matter what it is, but try for things that are important in your life.
  2. Ask yourself, “What is the smallest step I can do?”. Most of us look at something on our (mental or digital or paper) list and subconsciously think, “That’s too hard.” So we put it off. But that’s because we’re thinking about an entire project, which has many tasks. You can’t do a project right now, you can only do a task. Instead of saying, “I’m going to write that paper that’s due,” you should say, “I’m going to write 3 things in the outline of the paper.” If the smallest task stills seems too hard, say you’re just going to do 5 minutes of that small task right now. Or just two minutes. Make it ridiculously easy.
  3. Ask yourself, “What is stopping me from focusing on that small step?. Even if you figured out a task to focus on, and you’ve broken it into the smallest step, there will still be distractions or resistance. If you’re not immediately doing the smallest step of the next task, ask yourself why. What’s stopping you? Can you resolve this issue, close all browser tabs, shut off your phone, ask co-workers or roommates or family members to give you 30 minutes of focused time? Can you ask for help, get some accountability? The easiest solution is usually to close all distractions. Then get moving on the smallest step.

Once you’ve done that, repeat this process two more times, taking a few minutes’ break between each round. Then take 20 minutes off as a reward. That’s your training session. If you can do several training sessions a day, you’ll get good at this in no time. And as you get good, the cost of doing anything will begin to seem miniscule.

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Hi, it’s Lisa. Hopefully this will help get you moving again…

BY LEO BABAUTA

I know a lot of people who fall into a slump, losing the habit of exercise, procrastinating with work, slipping into a bad diet, and generally not feeling motivated.

It’s hard to get out of a slump like that.

It’s hard to get going again, to get started when all the forces of inertia are against you.

Here’s how to get started, in just a few easy steps.

  1. Pick one thing. Pick just one change. People who want to change their lives usually want to change everything at once. But trust me, one change is enough for now: go for a short walk, do a few pushups, eat a fruit for breakfast, do a 5-sentence journal every morning. Not all of these, just pick one! Focus on it for the next month.
  2. Send a friend an email. Just a quick email, asking for help. Tell them you’ve been slumping, but you’re going to stick to one change. Ask them to keep you accountable — if you don’t do what you promise every day for a month, you owe them something big (or embarrassing). Make it something powerful, so you definitely won’t allow yourself to fail.
  3. Promise to do something ridiculously easy. Tell your friend you’re going to do something every day — but something super easy. Again, go for a 5-minute walk. Do just a few pushups every morning. Do a journal of just 5 sentences each day. The easier the better. Again, trust me on this one. You want it so easy you can’t say no.
  4. Create unmissable reminders. Put a huge sign somewhere you won’t miss it. Reminders in your email, calendar, phone. Ask people around you to remind you. Put a rubber band around your wrist. Don’t let yourself forget!
  5. Build trust with a single step. Every day, you just need to take one step. Just write one sentence in your journal. Just do one pushup or yoga pose. When you take that step, do it mindfully and with gratitude and joy. Smile. Enjoy that tiny victory. With that step, you’re building trust in yourself. When you see yourself want to put it off, pause. Breathe. Stay with the urge to run away but don’t let yourself run. Smile, and do the habit anyway.

With every single step, you’ll feel better. When you finish that step, take the next one. You’ll trust yourself more and more, and eventually you’ll be able to add another small habit, then another the month after. And soon you’ll be kicking butt, happy you’re moving in a good direction, smiling with gratitude with every good thing you’re doing for yourself.

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Hi, It’s Lisa. I found this article and felt we could all benefit from it. But you can’t put off reading it!
BY LEO BABAUTA

We all procrastinate. The question is how (or even whether) we overcome the tendency to procrastinate, and if we can find focus.

This matters — our lives are brief and limited, and while we don’t need to be productivity robots, running in fear of difficult tasks to distractions and comfort is not the best way to spend our lives.

We can face these fears. We can learn to deal with them mindfully. And in doing so, we can develop an ability to return with courage to the work that matters the most to us, to create something important, something that helps the world at least in a small way.

Distraction and running aren’t useful habits. Let’s learn to overcome them and find focus to create.

The Procrastination Fears

Why do we run from hard tasks? Because of fears:

  • That we don’t know what we’re doing
  • That we’re gonna mess up and look bad
  • That we’ll succeed and then have to face a scarier situation
  • That the task will be difficult and uncomfortable

Basically, we fear discomfort and uncertainty. We want comfort and certainty, and distractions like email and social media and reading news and blogs are easy and we know how to do them. Very well. Distractions are always much more tempting than difficult work, much more comforting than facing fears.

We all have fears, but our habit is to run from them. Avoid even thinking about them. Our minds are very good at this.

We get distracted and then forget completely about what we were supposed to be doing. Our minds are good at forgetting and getting lost.

We try to focus, but then immediately we have an urge to switch to something else, because staying is uncomfortable. Our minds love comfort, hate discomfort, and will run to comfort every time, if we let them.

So that’s why we procrastinate … but how do we overcome this?

Overcoming Procrastination

Our minds are very good at running from discomfort, and most of the time we don’t even realize it’s happening. We just have an urge to switch, and follow the urge immediately.

The trick then, is to catch ourselves when we’re about to switch. When the urge comes up to switch, we have to notice.

Then we have to pause, and deal mindfully instead of mindlessly with the urge.

Here’s how:

  1. Create a practice space. Do an Unprocrastination Session once a day to practice. Pick an important task (any will do — one you’ve been procrastinating on is a good choice). Set a timer for 5 minutes, or 10 if you feel ambitious. Commit to doing nothing but your important task for that 5 minutes.
  2. Don’t let yourself switch. Clear distractions and have nothing that you can do except this one task. You’re single-tasking. When you get the urge to switch (when, not if), notice this! And don’t act on the urge. We can feel an urge and not act on it. How liberating!
  3. Stay with the urge. Instead of acting on the urge, instead of ignoring the urge … just stay with it. Sit still and feel how it feels. Notice the fear of this task that you’re facing. Notice discomfort. Boredom, dread, feeling intimidated or overwhelmed or confused or incompetent. Just stay with it and be curious about the physical feeling. What does the energy in your body feel like?
  4. Return to the task. After sitting for a minute with the urge and the discomfort, they’ll probably die down. Simply return your focus to your task. You didn’t scratch the itch, and the itch wasn’t that big of a deal.

By working on this once a day, you can begin to develop trust that you’ll be OK if you don’t scratch the itch, that you’ll be able to handle the urge without acting on it, that you’ll be fine if you deal with the discomfort of a difficult task. This is quite an accomplishment!

Finding Focus

Focusing on one thing is an incredibly difficult thing to do. Whether you want to focus on writing a report or a book chapter, focus on drawing or practicing music, focus on reading or meditating on your breath … your mind is in the habit of switching to something else.

Focusing, then, is a matter of practicing staying.

In the Unprocrastination Sessions I described above, we talked about how to practice staying. In addition, I’d like to offer a few more practical tips:

  1. Have a deeper motivation. The thing you are focusing on shouldn’t just be “nice to do,” but should really feel meaningful to you.
  2. Remember your motivation as you get started. This task doesn’t just have fear in it … there’s a great deal of love as well. Let the love drive you past the fear.
  3. Use external motivation if needed. While love is the best motivator, sometimes you just aren’t feeling up to it. So use external deadlines and accountability. Promise to email something to a friend or colleague by a deadline or you have to do something embarrassing. Put your reputation on the line. Join an accountability group. Don’t let yourself off the hook.
  4. Allow yourself to get into Flow. This is the state of mind where you are lost in the task. It’s easy to only be halfway into a task, with your mind flitting around and wanting to do something else. But if you can get fully into a task, you’ll truly love doing it. That means clearing all distractions, and really putting your mind into the task. I find it helpful to have a challenging task, and one that requires me to visualize. For example, if I’m writing a story, I should be imagining how the story is going, visually, not just thinking about the words.

Focus isn’t a magical quality that you can just acquire. It is a skill that takes daily practice, and you get better at it but never completely master it. You’ll slip up and get discouraged, but you can just practice some more.

In the end, all the practice will be worth it, because you’ll learn to focus on things that truly matter. And that is a life worth living, in my experience.

 

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what-do-women-wantWhat comes to mind if I say “to heck with it, I’m going for it?”

Are you confident, hesitant, or, frightened?

It could be about anything that requires a little bit of courage like asking someone out, entering a marathon, applying for a job, or starting a small business.

Most of those are easily overcome with a little nudging.

However, when it comes to really doing something to invest in yourself and your family, like starting a business, a lack of confidence is what stands between a woman and her dreams.

So what will you do about it?

Men may experience some fear but they just don’t let it get in the way as much.

This is not to say that a fear of failing is confined to women. It is one of the greatest obstacles to success in life for both genders.

Guess what?

The battle takes place right between your ears.

There are no external forces poised against you.

It is a mental habit.

Limiting beliefs are the difference (in many cases) between winning and losing, success and failure.,

Those and an equal dose of irrational fear stand poised in a soldier’s stance between you and your wildest dreams.

If you accept that anything is possible, you can flip those limiting beliefs around simply by believing it’s true.

What is the irony in is?

In hindsight, the overwhelming fear that stopped you seems weak, powerless, and unworthy of letting of letting a good opportunity pass you by.

A blind investment in the fear of failure is very costly in the end.

It means missing out on so much good by giving in and not trying. What’s the worst that could happen if you tried?

There is good news when it comes to overcoming a fear of failure.

The power is yours to change the direction of your thinking, to see that success is attainable, and, that you are as worthy of it as the next person.

Change the story!

There will be those times you won’t find the picture of success in which you enveloped yourself.

Big deal.

The only time to call it a failure is when you don’t learn from it.

It is far worse to quit on something before you get started, denying yourself a chance at success.

In a fine article on this subject, Chris Widener exposes the simple truth that failure can be absorbed into any formula for success. Read More.

Having been in business for many years there were times when my ideas didn’t pan out or promotions fell short.

In life, there will be obstacles along the way, and at times feel like it is trial by fire.

They are there to be overcome not feared, weaving strength not weakness into the fabric of your business and life on the whole.

I’ve always felt that the only way I could fail was if I quit. Since that was not an option, persevering through is the only way forward.

It worked out better than I could have dreamed.

 

Become a Princess Tea Party Business Owner! Become a Children’s Etiquette Teacher

lisa-180x150-3The Princess Tea Party business is fun, flexible, and lucrative. Now, with nearly 20 years of experience, I am helping other women achieve the same joy and satisfaction I have experienced in my two definitive Guides, Become a Princess Tea Party Business Owner, and Become a Children’s Etiquette Teacher. These are the exact road maps I followed to start and operate successful businesses made easy. No prior business experience is necessary, and no franchise fees. Learn More Here

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